A recent study shows that couples who choose to “merge” their Facebook accounts and use the same profile to try to show they love each other so much, actually do not trust each other. We are talking about profiles that are utilised by both people in the relationship and usually carry both names and the surname, such as “Mary & Joe Borg”. The study shows that most of the time one person in the relationship often forces his / her partner to utilise a combined profile.
Their excuse is to show that they really love each other, when in reality they have such a serious trust problemthat they don’t even allow their spouse or partner with a separate facebook account and have such systematic and controlling behavior that they need to see what messages their spouse or partner is receiving. The study says that most of the time such people often also check their partner’s mobile phone’s history, web browsing archive, messages and go through the saved photos continously.
The “merged” facebook profiles also create a problem for their friends, most of the time they start losing friends because their friends are not exactly sure who they are talking to when they message them in private and also know that whatever they say to one person, his / her partner is reading monitoring the conversation. Thus many of their friends choose not to speak to them anymore because they do not feel comfortable doing so.
Most will never admit they are using the same profile because they lack trust and instead opt to go for one of the standard excuses when confronted, such as it is more convenient to use one profile instead of two (really, is it?!), we have nothing to hide from each other (oh yeah?!) or the more arrogant reply that “what we do as a couple should be no one’s business” (no problem, but don’t expect people to message you when your spouse / partner is reading whatever we are saying)
The same study goes on to show that merging social media accounts indicates a loss of individuality and even tough a couple is married, living together or in a committed relationship it’s still two different people with two different lives. You don’t automatically become one person when you get married psychologists and relationship experts say, thus you still have to maintain some form of individuality otherwise you will start resenting the other person.
As technology continues to play a huge role in society, there are increased amounts of studies on the impact of social media on relationships.
There is a growing body of research on a concept called ‘Facebook jealousy.’ This means that essentially, the more time an individual is on social media, the more jealous their partner becomes if he/she is prone to jealousy, especially if they have an insecure relationship to begin with.
Partners can access jealousy-provoking information while looking at the other’s Facebook account, like seeing unknown friends, especially of the opposite sex. This creates a sense of heightened jealousy, which in turn leads to increased surveillance of a partner’s Facebook page, according to a study done by the Psychology Department of the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada.
The main study referenced in this article was carried out by a private research center of the Brigham-Young University.